New book from Patricia Evans

There’s a new book apparently being released from Patricia Evans:

Victory Over Verbal Abuse: A Healing Guide to Renewing Your Spirit and Reclaiming Your Life
Patricia Evans

I’ve personally read and used a bit out of her previous books, so I thought I’d put this out here to let anyone know.  The verbal abuse component is, in my opinion, one of the toughest aspects of dealing with a narcissist – together or apart.

My daughter has been really struggling with her father’s abusive words, guilt trips and negative influence.  This past weekend, she used the ‘f’ word in anger – clearly an influence from her dad.  I turned on an audio book in the car, which my children normally both love.  This was Winnie-the-Pooh.  I wasn’t sure if it would be fun to listen to or not – but much of the classic Pooh is timeless and ageless.  My daughter screamed out, annoyed and angry that she hated Pooh.  A few of her comments led to me asking her a question or two and finding that her dad had told her she wasn’t allowed to watch it because it was “too babyish” (she’s only 7).

We spoke about her using a bubble around her with her dad.  She pretends there is a bubble that surrounds her – and then when he says stuff or is emotional around her – she can see him and hear him, but it bounces off her bubble and doesn’t impact her.  I told her that whatever he does – it is his ‘experience’ in his life, and it doesn’t have to affect her (or ‘get into her bubble’) unless she lets it.  It’s a hard concept for any age – but the bubble part makes it easier for her to grasp.

Boundaries are a good thing 🙂

 


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