“Mom, can we go back to before I was born and pick out a new dad for me?”

This is what my daughter asked me the other night, in the middle of screaming tears…. “Mom, can we go back to before I was born and pick out a new dad for me?”

Do narcissist parents impact their parents?  You bet they do.  That’s why there are books out there for adults who are trying to heal from growing up with narcissistic or personality disordered parents!!

So what do I say to her?  She was a mess… so I held her, tried to calm her, told her that changing her dad in that way would change her and that I wanted her just as she was.  Told her to please not lose faith in God to fix our lives for the better.

We’ve taken to doing a simple act together that has profound effect on my daughter.  We stand facing each other, hold hands together.  We imagine that my ex/her father is sitting on our arms.  We then throw him upwards to the heavens and “release” him to God.  “God… he’s your’s, take him and make it so our situation is better – you decide how or in what way because we’ve released him to you”.

When Ido this with her, I can literally feel her energy lighten and feel her become happier and more peaceful.


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