Archive for May, 2012


Dealing with Narcissists: The Circle of Control

I am not sure who the author of the leadership tool “Circle of Control” actually is so that I can give credit to them. … Keep going...

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Empathy, Forgiveness, and Narcissism

Probably the most quintessential characteristic of narcissistic personality disorder is the lack of empathy.

Ironically, it is –to me, anyway– the most important tool I have in dealing with a narcissist, particularly in combination with forgiveness.… Keep going...

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Be the best parent

In the midst of the chaos that dealing with a person with a personality disorder brings, it is so easy to be frustrated.… Keep going...

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‘Gratitude is the open door to abundance’

This is what my Yogi tea told me today 🙂

So, let me count the ways which I am thankful:

1- I have an attorney who understands domestic violence behaviors & tactics, and even personality disorders. … Keep going...

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Battle with a Narcissist

This weekend, I had to confront my ex. He has been putting our 5 year old on a horse for lessons without ever speaking to me about whether this is okay (we are supposed to make those decisions jointly).… Keep going...

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What goes on at Daddy’s house

My children have been hesitant to say what’s happening at their father’s house, opening up gradually to me and my daughter’s therapist as they grow trust that they can tell without it being conveyed to their father. … Keep going...

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Messages from God

I truly believe that things happen in our lives for a reason.  I don’t think that we have “predefined destiny” – just that God puts things (people, situations, items) in our lives to learn from here and there. … Keep going...

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Therapy objectives for children of abusive parents

Took my daughter last week to her therapist.  We spoke about her conversation with me on her dad hitting her face. … Keep going...

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A Narcissist’s Rage

My children returned last week again complaining of their father’s raging.  My daughter said he was “yelling so loud the neighbors would be able to hear”, and that she asked him to be quieter. … Keep going...

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How can I teach my daughter to not be in an abusive relationship when she’s an adult

if I can’t protect her from abusive behavior as a child?

If my teen or adult daughter came to me and said that her boyfriend/husband hit her in the face… I would tell her to leave the jerk as fast as humanly possible.… Keep going...

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Does the definition of abuse need to include ‘intent to harm’?

My eight year old daughter disclosed yesterday that her father hits her on the face.

Just like an abuse victim, she rationalized it. … Keep going...

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