Archive for June, 2012


Do Children Need Love?

The other day during my daughter’s therapy appointment, my daughter’s therapist mentioned Harry Harlow and the wire monkey experiments.  I went home and looked it up to understand more about what she was telling me.… Keep going...

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Fear of the Narcissist Parent

My daughter attended her appointment with her therapist last evening.  She apparently did talk quite a bit about how things are going for her. … Keep going...

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Narcissists Who Seek Revenge

In my understanding, there are several types and variations of narcissists, as well as a plethoria of comorbidity within personality disorders. … Keep going...

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The narcissists ultimate revenge – taking the children

I was thinking today about my past with my narcissistic ex.  When our first child was born, he moved away (FAR away) for a ‘new job’. … Keep going...

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A Plea from a Narcissist’s Young Daughter

My 8 year old daughter wrote a book this week.  She asked me if I could take it to a publisher and shout her story loud so that she could get help to “improve her and her brother’s lives”.… Keep going...

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Dealing with Narcissism & Abuse: Finding Healing Within

When I first began the process of determining I wanted a divorce, my resources focused on understanding my ex’s behavior and why I had gone from a confident, independent, secure, internally peaceful individual – to self-doubting, frustrated, angry individual.… Keep going...

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The Role of a Parent Coordinator: What to consider when co-parenting with a narcissist

What is a parent coordinator?

In the US, the Association of Family and Conciliatory Courts (AFCC) published a document called the “Guidelines for Parent Coordination“. … Keep going...

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I was always looking outside myself for strength

and confidence but  it comes from within.

It was there all the time.

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Narcissistic Rage and Children

Apparently, narcissists have no filter when they rage. It doesn’t surprise me, in many ways, but it saddens me in so many other ways.… Keep going...

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More on Fear

“Fear is the darkroom where negatives are developed.”

– Chinese fortune cooki

“Fear is misdirected energy and must be redirected, or transmuted into Faith.”

– Florence Scovel Shinn, ‘The Game of Life and How to Play It’

For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you

– Isaiah 41:13

The Lord is my light and my salvation–whom shall I fear?

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What’s your mantra?

man·tra Listen to audio/ˈmɑ:ntrə, Brit ˈmæntrə/ noun

1 :a sound, word, or phrase that is repeated by someone who is praying or meditating

2 : a word or phrase that is repeated often or that expresses someone’s basic beliefs

3 : In yoga, one’s mantra is usually given by a Guru.… Keep going...

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The cost of divorcing a narcissist

My apologies … this is not the POSITIVE part of my blog.  It’s the ‘realistic, educating others on the impact of narcissism’ part. … Keep going...

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Why we are lucky

Why are co-parents and children in divorced houses with narcissistic parents LUCKY?

Because we LEFT.  We have time to ourselves to breathe, to regroup, to step back and look at all the tactics that are used against us as exactly that… tactics. … Keep going...

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A Glimpse into MY Ex’s Narcissistic parenting

In an effort to understand more fully what’s going on for my children, I have decided to send with them a recording device. … Keep going...

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“You are the light of the world…”

14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl.

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