A while ago, I wrote a post about having met my ex’s new girlfriend. She was 28 (he’s 42), sweet as can be and my kid’s loved her. She had many enduring, similar qualities as I did and I could see how easy she would be hooked into what he seemingly offered. While I was frustrated that my kids were put into her care when he fought so hard for the time with them, I was glad after meeting her that it was someone so nice and so caring about their needs.
I think the term “immersion girlfriend” is fitting. I think that they dated just under 3 months, but she was there every minute of every minute my kids were with their father during that time. She seemingly moved in, with 3 cats, a turtle and a few other zoo animals at his house (which cracks me up, cause he hates animals).
Well… she’s gone. About a month ago, she “poofed” away. Within a week, the kids announced that they had dinner with Daddy’s last girlfriend again. The 28 year old was there when I blew up at my ex for not returning phone calls when I was supposed to meet him at the airport, landing and driving away with immersion girlfriend. My daughter said she also confided in the things that “Daddy does” to her and her brother (yelling, hitting, calling them asshole and f-you). I wonder if it had anything to do with the end of their relationship.
Apparently, old girlfriend is going to turn into immersion girlfriend #3. (there was one before that he swore he was going to marry… well, that is until she was pregnant with another man’s baby). From what I hear, she shall be moving in soon. It’s going to be interesting, I suppose. From what I understand, she is very different than her predecessors. She’s asian, small, and tells my children what to do a lot. My daughter says she is “good for daddy” because she “helps him do what he needs to get done”. Go figure…
I’m just so happy that it isn’t me :) And that I can look at the situation objectively and as a psychological case study of a psychopath.
Immersion girlfriends… I salute you!