Today, I’m feeling a bit stressed as my kids are scheduled to be with their dad for this upcoming “holiday” weekend, and he seems to be doing pretty bad financially. More stress on him means more stress taken out on my kids. This also means that he hasn’t been paying child support and he’s filed that motion to “relieve” him of child support…. which equates to me needing to figure out how to magically compensate for his lack of child support and the upcoming legal fees. Plus, I am filing a motion to appoint a therapist for our son – which equals even more legal fees. And…I probably haven’t mentioned that I live in one of the “top ten most expensive metro areas” in the US.
So today I need to focus on what I can do to feel peace inside. Here’s some of my favorite resources for doing so:
Louise Hay: She has wonderful positive affirmations on her site. Today’s is perfect: “I am in the process of positive change“.
Zen Habits: I like this guy’s posts. Although, I admit, sometimes they are about as realistic to acheive as Martha Stewart’s holiday decorations…. like keeping all flat surfaces clear of anything. Ha! Nonetheless, acheiveable or aspirational… it’s a quick moment of calm.
Gratitude Log: I’ve done this before and decided to make it a part of the bedtime ritual with my kids to keep it going. Normally, I will jot down all the things I am thankful for as a reminder that Life is Good. The bedtime ritual will be to say one thing from that day that we are thankful about. Last night, my son was feeling thankful for all the new toys he will get at Christmas. (what?? I wonder if he has an “in” with the big red fluffy dude).
Dr. Wayne Dyer: He is a lot like Louise Hay and believes in the power of positive thoughts and intentions. He also has daily affirmations on his site. Today’s is perfect for those of us dealing with toxic people: “I treasure all of the experiences I’ve had in my life. Each experience in your life was absolutely necessary in order to take you to the next place, and the next, up until this very moment.”
Vision Board: This is along the lines of the “law of attraction” and that which you focus on is what you attract more of into your life. It can be fun and productive to make a vision board – so that you can think clearly through what it is you want to have in your life and then see it daily to work towards it.
So, that’s my two cents as I go through my day today on how I will be trying to focus on other things in my life than the stress my ex puts into it. My vision? Freedom & protection for my children, and for every child in abusive situations to not only be free of being with abusive parents, but also to be able to be protected from it.