Research on Personality Disordered Parents and the impact on their kids.

Just passing along an article posted online at Psychology Today by Randi Kreger, who also has written books about divorcing a narcissistic or borderline individual.

I am researching and trying to understand the impact that personality disordered parents have on the children they are raising, and most importantly, what can be done while the children are being raised to help mitigate this negative impact.  The article really focuses most on mother’s who have personality disorders, and how negatively this impacts children by providing listings of research studies which were done to this effect. There isn’t information provided on how to help change this, although one of the research studies does speak to what may need to be done to intervene when a child has parent/s with a personality disorder.

4 Responses to “Research on Personality Disordered Parents and the impact on their kids.”

  1. Mongoose says:

    Thanks for sharing this- very useful for my situation (I may do a proper lit search too as I work in a related field). I sometimes wonder where the npd stops and the bpd begins because the traits seem so interlinked in my stepdaughter’s mum.
    I suppose the research tends to focus on mothers because they’re usually the primary caregivers (im also assuming that these are studies where the mums have custody) but there sure as hell needs to be research into the effects of enforced visitation with the pd parents…. Trying to help his stepson didnt work for my partner (hes becoming more and more sociopathic) but we hope that we can negate the impact on his daughter. One key thing for us seems to be early attachment – my boyfriend didn’t meet stepson til he was 4.

    Phd, anyone???!

  2. Heather says:

    Research bc it focuses so much on moms. Brene brown and maybe some if the Marsha lineman stuff (I teach the kids meditation for example). Anyway, I think so many academic psych people are huge narcs and if course that colors their research as well. The main thing I struggle with is not focusing on him and his provacative behaviors but instead on just the girls.

    • It does heavily focus on narcissistic mothers, which while I agree can impact their kids significantly, it is also confusing since ~75% of narcissists are male. I think since we can’t change the behaviors of the narcissists, the most important things we can do is to help children recognize the behavior, teach them to deal with it, and (most important) that we protect them from even being exposed to it at all. Unfortunately, the system isn’t yet supporting the need for that. It’s frustrating because as spouses, we recognized that it was a damaging environment for us and our children – but we can’t pull our children out of the situation. It seems that if one parent is strong enough to leave, that there is the ability to protect those children (harder to protect children of personality disordered parents who are in intact marriages). Ultimately, it leaves all of society better off.
      What is up with so many narcissists going into the psychological field? I truly believe that the parenting coordinator we had was strongly narcissistic – and in fact would speak to how damaging his own parents were to him. BUT – he believed that he had left that and become a great dad even in the face of his own bad parenting, and then advocated that my ex could too. Bull****!

  3. Heather says:

    A psychologist And I always get irritated at this

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