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Hurricane Sandy – Made it through one storm!

Outside, there is a light drizzle and the winds have subsided.  We have emerged on the other side of the storm. … Keep going...

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Explaining Narcissistic Personality Disorder to Children

When parenting with someone who has a personality disorder – borderline, NPD/narcissistic, antisocial (sociopath), it feels at times that we should explain the disorder to our children. … Keep going...

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Validation of the Abusiveness of a Narcissistic Parent

Validation:  A powerful, life moving moment when you’ve been in an unhealthy relationship and realize that all those things that you thought “didn’t feel right”..… Keep going...

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Share your Experience with Family Court

There’s an organization called the “National Family Court Watch Project”, dedicated to providing an impartial assessment of the effectiveness of family courts in dealing with custody, visitation, support and property issues.… Keep going...

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Good Touch / Bad Touch Books for Children

Given that personality disordered parents (narcissistic, borderline, antisocial) / Axis II / Cluster B have very loose if not non-existent boundaries, it is easy to see how the co-parents of these types would be worried about whether the parent is sexually abusing in some manner. … Keep going...

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Research on Personality Disordered Parents and the impact on their kids.

Just passing along an article posted online at Psychology Today by Randi Kreger, who also has written books about divorcing a narcissistic or borderline individual.… Keep going...

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Rules for the Male Narcissist

This post is because sometimes humor is healing, even cathartic.  It is also because sometimes, I have dreams that make me laugh!… Keep going...

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An Interesting Upside / Downside to Parenting Well with a Narcissist

This week, as the school counselor interviewed my daughter, she reported to me repeatedly how “upbeat” and “in good spirits” my daughter was even as she speaks about what happens.… Keep going...

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Power & Control Wheel – Abuse of Children by Narcissistic / Personality Disordered Parents

The Duluth Model created the Power & Control wheel back in 1984 to describe the dynamics of an abusive relationship.  The original Power & Control wheel has included how an abusive person may exercise visitation with the children after seperation with the purpose of being able to continue exhorting power over their victim.… Keep going...

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The Impact of Divorce

There’s a blogger who’s posts I enjoy reading who recently posted a very inspirational article about “Good Things that Come from Bad Divorces“. … Keep going...

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How Narcissists Emphathize

The other day, I had a wonderful opportunity to pick up my kids from their dad’s store and take them to my son’s friend’s indoor swimming party. … Keep going...

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Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde and Narcissism – a common theme?

A phrase that is used quite frequently with narcissists is “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde”.  The original movie actually had to do with someone who actually had split personalities, which came about because of dissociative disorder. … Keep going...

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My (abusive, narcissistic) dad says…

Quotes from my children:

  • My dad says that I’m useless.
  • My dad says I’m an asshole.
  • My dad says I’m a jerk.
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Parenting Plans & Narcissism, Borderline, Personality Disordered or general “High Conflict”

When I was working through the initial stages of divorce and needed to do a parenting plan with my ex, I had a hard time finding what elements should even be included in the plan itself. … Keep going...

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Book look: “A Relationship Guide to Being The One” by Barbara Rose

I came across this book a while back which is a super easy read… as in one evening’s worth (even after the kids go to bed). … Keep going...

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The Ominous Red Flags in Dating

For those of us who walked down this path, when we realize who we are really with, we wonder…’ what did I miss??’ and/or “why didn’t I really listen to my gut? … Keep going...

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Helping Children Cope with Visitation – Empowerment

One of the readers here, Jenelle, also has her own blog and graciously wrote a post upon request outlining what steps she takes to help her children deal with their narcissistic father. … Keep going...

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Boundaries – what are they?

After giving some thought to the last post, I thought it would be interesting to take another look at the various facets of personal boundaries. … Keep going...

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Boundaries & Personality Disorders (especially borderline, narcissism)

Boundaries are important around those with personality disorders as they generally don’t have any themselves.  It’s important for adults as well as children with a personality disordered parent to learn about boundaries from somewhere.Keep going...

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Family Court Reform Movements

There are various efforts out there by different groups who recognize the need to change the way that things are done in our family court system. … Keep going...

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