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A Legal Motion on my Door (again)

I’m human and I’m frustrated.  I returned home last evening to find the motion to reduce child support on my door. … Keep going...

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Out of the Mouths of Narcissists – Common Phrases

Along the way in my relationship with my ex, I came to terms with the relationship having been abusive.  I also came to realize that my ex likely has narcissistic personality disorder, borderline, some antisocial traits and perhaps bipolar as well. … Keep going...

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“But I say unto you, love your enemies, bless them who curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which spitefully use you and persecute you.”

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The Presence of Light

I heard a phase the other day, which I love and have been trying to keep  on my mind.

“Darkness cannot exist in the presence of light”

There are some religious perspectives on the phrase, but from the perspective of dealing with a narcissistic personality, I am concentrating on being a “presence of light” so that I may outshine the ability for “darkness” (my narcissistic ex) to exist.… Keep going...

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Narcissists Repeat Destructive Relationship Patterns

I find it interesting that we all (personality disordered and “normal” people) have trends or patterns in our lives that repeat themselves. … Keep going...

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Using “I” Language and other Assertive Communication with Narcissists

The awesome dialog that we had recently about responding to emails made me think maybe it would be helpful to have a post of links to resources which discuss ways to communicate more effectively with a narcissist or other personality disorder.… Keep going...

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Empaths & Narcissism

I ran across this article  a little while back, and found it quite fascinating. In my view of the world, it’s not all that different than co-dependent personalities attracting narcissists, but it’s nice to view it from a more positive perspective. … Keep going...

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The Narcissist’s New Girlfriend

A while ago, I wrote a post about having met my ex’s new girlfriend.  She was 28 (he’s 42), sweet as can be and my kid’s loved her. … Keep going...

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Do Narcissists Really Cooperate?

Most of the time, I have posts which I’m working on stacked in the background.  Information that would be helpful to others who are walking down this same path. … Keep going...

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A Look at Parental Alienation and Protective Parent Behaviors

Within the list of behaviors used to describe “parental alienation” (which is unfounded), there are some which resemble behaviors of a personality disordered individual, and others which may be contorted views of actions taken by a protective parent. … Keep going...

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The Quest for a Psychological Evaluation

This is a great example of narcissism, if I’ve ever seen one.  I honestly read an email from my ex and laughed aloud. … Keep going...

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Visitation Transitions, Narcissism and Lack of Empathy

Today, my kids transferred to their dad’s for the last of their three separate weeks of summer vacation with him.  My daughter didn’t realize it was today, and sobbed the minute she heard it earlier in the day. … Keep going...

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Coparenting with a Narcissist Requires a (slightly sick) Sense of Humor

There are many aspects of someone who has narcissist traits that can be particularly funny, if you can distance yourself from it all.… Keep going...

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Cannibal or Cannon Ball?

This is way off my beaten path..but it cracked me up so I thought I would jot it down.

I’m at my kids’ daycare.… Keep going...

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Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

I have spent and will continue to spend a great deal of time focused on myself and the healing that I need to do to recover from being around an husband/ex-husband with narcissitic & sociopathic traits. … Keep going...

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The Impact of Family Violence on Boys – an example

Last month I was dismayed how my ex slapped my daughter’s face because she was upset at the haunted house in Disney.… Keep going...

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Boundaries with Narcissists – give a little room and they want to take a mile

This is a post which we all know well.  I am grappling this morning because I opened my own can of worms with my ex. … Keep going...

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My Narcissistic/Sociopathic Ex’s Current Complaints

My ex met with my daughter’s therapist.  The objective:  For the therapist to get my Ex to agree to having our son evaluated by a mental health professional because of his regressive behaviors (my son, not my ex’s regression 😉

Here’s the key points that he laid out to the therapist. … Keep going...

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Daily Affirmations for Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

I like Louise Hay.  She is all about the power of positive thinking, and using affirmations to change our lives.  Regardless of whether it works or it doesn’t in terms of actually changing my life… it makes me FEEL better when I change my thoughts from those of despair, despise and resentment to ‘happy power thoughts’.… Keep going...

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Narcissist’s New Girlfriend

I met my ex’s new girlfriend a few weeks back.

I had been hearing about her lately from my kids – she has stayed the weekends that my kids are with their dad for the past 4 weekends. … Keep going...

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