Archive for the Child abuse Category


Some Freedom and the Puppy Dilema

It’s about time I did a new post.  It’s been far too long without anything. Frankly – I don’t know how all you single parents do so much!  … Keep going...

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Teaching Children about Healthy Relationships

If there’s one thing that is challenging when dealing with a sociopath, narcissist or personality disordered person… it is maintaining an accurate view of what a healthy relationship looks like.  … Keep going...

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Letting Go Meditation

Last week, my daughter was really focused on wanting to speak with her father and tell him how she felt about things. … Keep going...

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Hostile Agressive Parenting & Parental Alienation Syndrome

A few days ago, I received a couple of rather “trolling” blog comments.  At first, I figured I would ignore or delete them. … Keep going...

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A Personal Update

I am going to jot down an update on things that have been happening for us, then also do another post that focuses more on the positive aspects. … Keep going...

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Narcissists are “reality benders”

My kids and I have watched the series “The  Last Airbender” television cartoon series (different than the recent movie).  In it, there are “benders” who are able to manipulate the four elements of water, air, earth and fire by using their own mental energies.… Keep going...

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Back to Visitation

Yesterday was a whirlwind.  CPS reinstated visitation.  They see it as a sticky case because it has been going on for so many years, and because there are court orders in place. … Keep going...

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The Oxymoron of Child Protection & Divorce/Custody Cases

There’s a well known system flaw in the cases of child abuse and ‘disputed’ custody cases:  a protective parent must either risk being viewed as trying to cut the other parent out of their lives, or risk their children being harmed further & being accused of failure to protect.… Keep going...

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God, Please Give Me Strength

On a personal front, I need strength.   My son was returned from the weekend with redness around his anus.  He has a bruise on his backside. … Keep going...

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An Update – the School’s Social Worker

God put a blessing in our lives and works in wonderful ways.  I’m not sure yet how this will play out, but I have only to believe that it can help. … Keep going...

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Validation of the Abusiveness of a Narcissistic Parent

Validation:  A powerful, life moving moment when you’ve been in an unhealthy relationship and realize that all those things that you thought “didn’t feel right”..… Keep going...

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Good Touch / Bad Touch Books for Children

Given that personality disordered parents (narcissistic, borderline, antisocial) / Axis II / Cluster B have very loose if not non-existent boundaries, it is easy to see how the co-parents of these types would be worried about whether the parent is sexually abusing in some manner. … Keep going...

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The School Counselor: Next Time There’s a Bruise…

I’m furious.  I’m beyond being furious for personal reasons – I’m furious that this type of mentality exists and that it puts children even more at risk rather than helping to protect them.… Keep going...

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Visitation with a Narcissistic Parent

The past several weekends have been really bad for my kids.  I’m sure this is a familiar situation to many:  kids who resist going, phone calls which are blocked or monitored, or involve a child crying about having to be there and wanting to come home. … Keep going...

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Power & Control Wheel – Abuse of Children by Narcissistic / Personality Disordered Parents

The Duluth Model created the Power & Control wheel back in 1984 to describe the dynamics of an abusive relationship.  The original Power & Control wheel has included how an abusive person may exercise visitation with the children after seperation with the purpose of being able to continue exhorting power over their victim.… Keep going...

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The Impact of Divorce

There’s a blogger who’s posts I enjoy reading who recently posted a very inspirational article about “Good Things that Come from Bad Divorces“. … Keep going...

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My (abusive, narcissistic) dad says…

Quotes from my children:

  • My dad says that I’m useless.
  • My dad says I’m an asshole.
  • My dad says I’m a jerk.
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A Valuable Lesson for Daughter of Narcissist

“Information is Power”, right?  Sharing information isn’t really something I thought very much about, however, until I met my ex and his family. … Keep going...

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Helping Children Cope with Visitation – Empowerment

One of the readers here, Jenelle, also has her own blog and graciously wrote a post upon request outlining what steps she takes to help her children deal with their narcissistic father. … Keep going...

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Helping children cope during visitation with a narcissistic parent

Once upon a time, there was a very naive mother.  Naive mommy didn’t know that her soon to be ex has strong (very strong) narcissistic and sociopathic traits, and didn’t quite grasp that he really couldn’t co-parent (or co-anything, for that matter). … Keep going...

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