Archive for the Custody & Visitation Category


Some Freedom and the Puppy Dilema

It’s about time I did a new post.  It’s been far too long without anything. Frankly – I don’t know how all you single parents do so much!  … Keep going...

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Teaching Children about Healthy Relationships

If there’s one thing that is challenging when dealing with a sociopath, narcissist or personality disordered person… it is maintaining an accurate view of what a healthy relationship looks like.  … Keep going...

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A Weekend of Crying: Refusing Visitation

My 8 year old daughter is having a tough time lately.  She was crying fiercely about having to go with her father on friday for the weekend. … Keep going...

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A Personal Update

I am going to jot down an update on things that have been happening for us, then also do another post that focuses more on the positive aspects. … Keep going...

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Back to Visitation

Yesterday was a whirlwind.  CPS reinstated visitation.  They see it as a sticky case because it has been going on for so many years, and because there are court orders in place. … Keep going...

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Barry Goldstein: Research on Domestic Violence & Child Custody

Sometime back,I reached out to Barry Goldstein to look for ideas on how to handle the issues with my kids.  He and Theresa Mo’Hannah have published a book about domestic violence and child custody. … Keep going...

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The Oxymoron of Child Protection & Divorce/Custody Cases

There’s a well known system flaw in the cases of child abuse and ‘disputed’ custody cases:  a protective parent must either risk being viewed as trying to cut the other parent out of their lives, or risk their children being harmed further & being accused of failure to protect.… Keep going...

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God, Please Give Me Strength

On a personal front, I need strength.   My son was returned from the weekend with redness around his anus.  He has a bruise on his backside. … Keep going...

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Explaining Narcissistic Personality Disorder to Children

When parenting with someone who has a personality disorder – borderline, NPD/narcissistic, antisocial (sociopath), it feels at times that we should explain the disorder to our children. … Keep going...

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An Update – the School’s Social Worker

God put a blessing in our lives and works in wonderful ways.  I’m not sure yet how this will play out, but I have only to believe that it can help. … Keep going...

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Validation of the Abusiveness of a Narcissistic Parent

Validation:  A powerful, life moving moment when you’ve been in an unhealthy relationship and realize that all those things that you thought “didn’t feel right”..… Keep going...

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Share your Experience with Family Court

There’s an organization called the “National Family Court Watch Project”, dedicated to providing an impartial assessment of the effectiveness of family courts in dealing with custody, visitation, support and property issues.… Keep going...

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Visitation with a Narcissistic Parent

The past several weekends have been really bad for my kids.  I’m sure this is a familiar situation to many:  kids who resist going, phone calls which are blocked or monitored, or involve a child crying about having to be there and wanting to come home. … Keep going...

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Power & Control Wheel – Abuse of Children by Narcissistic / Personality Disordered Parents

The Duluth Model created the Power & Control wheel back in 1984 to describe the dynamics of an abusive relationship.  The original Power & Control wheel has included how an abusive person may exercise visitation with the children after seperation with the purpose of being able to continue exhorting power over their victim.… Keep going...

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My (abusive, narcissistic) dad says…

Quotes from my children:

  • My dad says that I’m useless.
  • My dad says I’m an asshole.
  • My dad says I’m a jerk.
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Parenting Plans & Narcissism, Borderline, Personality Disordered or general “High Conflict”

When I was working through the initial stages of divorce and needed to do a parenting plan with my ex, I had a hard time finding what elements should even be included in the plan itself. … Keep going...

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Narcissists Manipulate

  A quick post, as I read a post by another blogger this morning that strikes a cord:  read her post.

This past weekend, my ex dropped off the kids and told me how he had a conflict for his mid-week dinner and asked to    change the day of the week. … Keep going...

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Helping Children Cope with Visitation – Empowerment

One of the readers here, Jenelle, also has her own blog and graciously wrote a post upon request outlining what steps she takes to help her children deal with their narcissistic father. … Keep going...

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Helping children cope during visitation with a narcissistic parent

Once upon a time, there was a very naive mother.  Naive mommy didn’t know that her soon to be ex has strong (very strong) narcissistic and sociopathic traits, and didn’t quite grasp that he really couldn’t co-parent (or co-anything, for that matter). … Keep going...

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Family Court Reform Movements

There are various efforts out there by different groups who recognize the need to change the way that things are done in our family court system. … Keep going...

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