Archive for the Dealing with a narcissist Category


Hypnosis for Dealing with Narcissists

Life’s been busy.  I am five classes and five A’s :} into a MSW.  However, since I also have to work full time to simply cover the bills, I am stuck at the point of the program where they require “field work” – i.e.… Keep going...

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Some Freedom and the Puppy Dilema

It’s about time I did a new post.  It’s been far too long without anything. Frankly – I don’t know how all you single parents do so much!  … Keep going...

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Teaching Children about Healthy Relationships

If there’s one thing that is challenging when dealing with a sociopath, narcissist or personality disordered person… it is maintaining an accurate view of what a healthy relationship looks like.  … Keep going...

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A Compassionate Look at Personality Disorders

The daily bible app on my phone today reminded me of how God sees us all, even those who deal with a personality disorder.… Keep going...

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Validation: My ex’s work performance review

When you have been dealing with a personality disordered individual, you’re likely to hear how you are completely off the mark about what you see, think or feel. … Keep going...

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A Personal Update

I am going to jot down an update on things that have been happening for us, then also do another post that focuses more on the positive aspects. … Keep going...

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The Holiday Season & the Narcissistic Ex

As we are surrounded by holiday colors ‘everywhere we go’, I thought it might make sense to revisit a post I did last year in regards to the holidays. Keep going...

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Narcissists are “reality benders”

My kids and I have watched the series “The  Last Airbender” television cartoon series (different than the recent movie).  In it, there are “benders” who are able to manipulate the four elements of water, air, earth and fire by using their own mental energies.… Keep going...

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Back to Visitation

Yesterday was a whirlwind.  CPS reinstated visitation.  They see it as a sticky case because it has been going on for so many years, and because there are court orders in place. … Keep going...

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Barry Goldstein: Research on Domestic Violence & Child Custody

Sometime back,I reached out to Barry Goldstein to look for ideas on how to handle the issues with my kids.  He and Theresa Mo’Hannah have published a book about domestic violence and child custody. … Keep going...

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Love Your Neighbor as You Love Yourself

“‘YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” – Mark 12:31 

This verse was included in the Gospel reading at church yesterday. … Keep going...

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Defense vs. Being Assertive – Legal Battles with a Narcissist

Last week, when I met with my daughter’s therapist, I received a litany of items that I need to change or do. … Keep going...

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When the Going Gets Tough

I find that when I am stressed … really stressed and something is bothering me… I get quiet.  My normally extraverted personality turns inwards. … Keep going...

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The Oxymoron of Child Protection & Divorce/Custody Cases

There’s a well known system flaw in the cases of child abuse and ‘disputed’ custody cases:  a protective parent must either risk being viewed as trying to cut the other parent out of their lives, or risk their children being harmed further & being accused of failure to protect.… Keep going...

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Explaining Narcissistic Personality Disorder to Children

When parenting with someone who has a personality disorder – borderline, NPD/narcissistic, antisocial (sociopath), it feels at times that we should explain the disorder to our children. … Keep going...

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Good Touch / Bad Touch Books for Children

Given that personality disordered parents (narcissistic, borderline, antisocial) / Axis II / Cluster B have very loose if not non-existent boundaries, it is easy to see how the co-parents of these types would be worried about whether the parent is sexually abusing in some manner. … Keep going...

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Rules for the Male Narcissist

This post is because sometimes humor is healing, even cathartic.  It is also because sometimes, I have dreams that make me laugh!… Keep going...

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How Narcissists Emphathize

The other day, I had a wonderful opportunity to pick up my kids from their dad’s store and take them to my son’s friend’s indoor swimming party. … Keep going...

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Children Learn what they Live

I have always loved this… especially the day I realized that my ex (spouse at the time) would be unable to provide a good environment for our daughter (this was before our son was born). … Keep going...

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Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde and Narcissism – a common theme?

A phrase that is used quite frequently with narcissists is “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde”.  The original movie actually had to do with someone who actually had split personalities, which came about because of dissociative disorder. … Keep going...

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