Archive for the Dealing with a narcissist Category


Parenting Plans & Narcissism, Borderline, Personality Disordered or general “High Conflict”

When I was working through the initial stages of divorce and needed to do a parenting plan with my ex, I had a hard time finding what elements should even be included in the plan itself. … Keep going...

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Book look: “A Relationship Guide to Being The One” by Barbara Rose

I came across this book a while back which is a super easy read… as in one evening’s worth (even after the kids go to bed). … Keep going...

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A Valuable Lesson for Daughter of Narcissist

“Information is Power”, right?  Sharing information isn’t really something I thought very much about, however, until I met my ex and his family. … Keep going...

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Narcissists Manipulate

  A quick post, as I read a post by another blogger this morning that strikes a cord:  read her post.

This past weekend, my ex dropped off the kids and told me how he had a conflict for his mid-week dinner and asked to    change the day of the week. … Keep going...

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Helping children cope during visitation with a narcissistic parent

Once upon a time, there was a very naive mother.  Naive mommy didn’t know that her soon to be ex has strong (very strong) narcissistic and sociopathic traits, and didn’t quite grasp that he really couldn’t co-parent (or co-anything, for that matter). … Keep going...

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Boundaries – what are they?

After giving some thought to the last post, I thought it would be interesting to take another look at the various facets of personal boundaries. … Keep going...

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Family Court Reform Movements

There are various efforts out there by different groups who recognize the need to change the way that things are done in our family court system. … Keep going...

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A Legal Motion on my Door (again)

I’m human and I’m frustrated.  I returned home last evening to find the motion to reduce child support on my door. … Keep going...

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Out of the Mouths of Narcissists – Common Phrases

Along the way in my relationship with my ex, I came to terms with the relationship having been abusive.  I also came to realize that my ex likely has narcissistic personality disorder, borderline, some antisocial traits and perhaps bipolar as well. … Keep going...

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Dad, I wrote a letter to the president and law makers

My daughter must have met her wit’s end last evening with her father.  She arrived home to say that her dad was being rude to them, and that she told him how she wrote a letter to the president. … Keep going...

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Unemployed, Going to Court, Car Broken Down & Feeling Thankful

Yesterday was one of those days…  but yet I still felt happy and thankful.  How?

First, let me explain that I’ve been unemployed for 2+ years now. … Keep going...

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The truth will set you free

On my phone,I have an app which delivers a daily bible quote to the screen.  Today, I read John 8:32 and thought something different than I have before. … Keep going...

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Happy Labor Day

My kids and I just concluded a week’s vacation at the beach with my parents.  My youngest, nerves and all, will begin kindergarten tomorrow. … Keep going...

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Dear Barack Obama

My children returned after a particularly difficult weekend with their father, and within the first hour, I heard my five year old son scream at his sister: “You f-ing idiot!”  (although he didn’t abbreviate the word like I just did). … Keep going...

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The Presence of Light

I heard a phase the other day, which I love and have been trying to keep  on my mind.

“Darkness cannot exist in the presence of light”

There are some religious perspectives on the phrase, but from the perspective of dealing with a narcissistic personality, I am concentrating on being a “presence of light” so that I may outshine the ability for “darkness” (my narcissistic ex) to exist.… Keep going...

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Narcissists Repeat Destructive Relationship Patterns

I find it interesting that we all (personality disordered and “normal” people) have trends or patterns in our lives that repeat themselves. … Keep going...

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Using “I” Language and other Assertive Communication with Narcissists

The awesome dialog that we had recently about responding to emails made me think maybe it would be helpful to have a post of links to resources which discuss ways to communicate more effectively with a narcissist or other personality disorder.… Keep going...

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The Narcissist’s New Girlfriend

A while ago, I wrote a post about having met my ex’s new girlfriend.  She was 28 (he’s 42), sweet as can be and my kid’s loved her. … Keep going...

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Do Narcissists Really Cooperate?

Most of the time, I have posts which I’m working on stacked in the background.  Information that would be helpful to others who are walking down this same path. … Keep going...

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A Look at Parental Alienation and Protective Parent Behaviors

Within the list of behaviors used to describe “parental alienation” (which is unfounded), there are some which resemble behaviors of a personality disordered individual, and others which may be contorted views of actions taken by a protective parent. … Keep going...

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