Archive for the Healing from Abuse Category


Out of the Mouths of Narcissists – Common Phrases

Along the way in my relationship with my ex, I came to terms with the relationship having been abusive.  I also came to realize that my ex likely has narcissistic personality disorder, borderline, some antisocial traits and perhaps bipolar as well. … Keep going...

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The Impact of Domestic Abuse

Since I left an abusive relationship myself and began to heal, I wanted to do something to give back… to help in some way others who were also leaving abusive relationships. … Keep going...

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Unemployed, Going to Court, Car Broken Down & Feeling Thankful

Yesterday was one of those days…  but yet I still felt happy and thankful.  How?

First, let me explain that I’ve been unemployed for 2+ years now. … Keep going...

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The truth will set you free

On my phone,I have an app which delivers a daily bible quote to the screen.  Today, I read John 8:32 and thought something different than I have before. … Keep going...

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Happy Labor Day

My kids and I just concluded a week’s vacation at the beach with my parents.  My youngest, nerves and all, will begin kindergarten tomorrow. … Keep going...

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The Presence of Light

I heard a phase the other day, which I love and have been trying to keep  on my mind.

“Darkness cannot exist in the presence of light”

There are some religious perspectives on the phrase, but from the perspective of dealing with a narcissistic personality, I am concentrating on being a “presence of light” so that I may outshine the ability for “darkness” (my narcissistic ex) to exist.… Keep going...

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Narcissists Repeat Destructive Relationship Patterns

I find it interesting that we all (personality disordered and “normal” people) have trends or patterns in our lives that repeat themselves. … Keep going...

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Empaths & Narcissism

I ran across this article  a little while back, and found it quite fascinating. In my view of the world, it’s not all that different than co-dependent personalities attracting narcissists, but it’s nice to view it from a more positive perspective. … Keep going...

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Coparenting with a Narcissist Requires a (slightly sick) Sense of Humor

There are many aspects of someone who has narcissist traits that can be particularly funny, if you can distance yourself from it all.… Keep going...

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Healing from Narcissistic Abuse – Optimism vs. Realism

I had another thought regarding thinking through the lessons I’ve learned from my ex.

The other night, in speaking with my ever-loving, eternally optimistic father, he told me that “maybe <your ex> is finally learning to give and take”. … Keep going...

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Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

I have spent and will continue to spend a great deal of time focused on myself and the healing that I need to do to recover from being around an husband/ex-husband with narcissitic & sociopathic traits. … Keep going...

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Narcissist’s New Girlfriend, Part 2

Just a quick note to show how narcissists/borderlines cycle through relationships.

A few weeks ago, I wrote a post about meeting my ex’s most recent new girlfriend, who had been there with my children in “immersion” fashion – basically having moved into my ex’s house with her 3 cats, and several other pets.… Keep going...

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Daily Affirmations for Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

I like Louise Hay.  She is all about the power of positive thinking, and using affirmations to change our lives.  Regardless of whether it works or it doesn’t in terms of actually changing my life… it makes me FEEL better when I change my thoughts from those of despair, despise and resentment to ‘happy power thoughts’.… Keep going...

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The narcissists ultimate revenge – taking the children

I was thinking today about my past with my narcissistic ex.  When our first child was born, he moved away (FAR away) for a ‘new job’. … Keep going...

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Dealing with Narcissism & Abuse: Finding Healing Within

When I first began the process of determining I wanted a divorce, my resources focused on understanding my ex’s behavior and why I had gone from a confident, independent, secure, internally peaceful individual – to self-doubting, frustrated, angry individual.… Keep going...

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What’s your mantra?

man·tra Listen to audio/ˈmɑ:ntrə, Brit ˈmæntrə/ noun

1 :a sound, word, or phrase that is repeated by someone who is praying or meditating

2 : a word or phrase that is repeated often or that expresses someone’s basic beliefs

3 : In yoga, one’s mantra is usually given by a Guru.… Keep going...

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Why we are lucky

Why are co-parents and children in divorced houses with narcissistic parents LUCKY?

Because we LEFT.  We have time to ourselves to breathe, to regroup, to step back and look at all the tactics that are used against us as exactly that… tactics. … Keep going...

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“You are the light of the world…”

14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl.

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Dealing with Narcissists: The Circle of Control

I am not sure who the author of the leadership tool “Circle of Control” actually is so that I can give credit to them. … Keep going...

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Empathy, Forgiveness, and Narcissism

Probably the most quintessential characteristic of narcissistic personality disorder is the lack of empathy.

Ironically, it is –to me, anyway– the most important tool I have in dealing with a narcissist, particularly in combination with forgiveness.… Keep going...

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