Archive for the Helping kids cope Category


Left “alone” by Narcissist Father

What constitutes leaving your children alone?  What is okay, and what isn’t?  My neighbor, who I consider to be a great mom, used to leave her youngest son inside the house as she walked up and around the corner of the street to pick up her older kids from the bus stop. … Keep going...

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Fear of the Narcissist Parent

My daughter attended her appointment with her therapist last evening.  She apparently did talk quite a bit about how things are going for her. … Keep going...

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A Plea from a Narcissist’s Young Daughter

My 8 year old daughter wrote a book this week.  She asked me if I could take it to a publisher and shout her story loud so that she could get help to “improve her and her brother’s lives”.… Keep going...

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A Glimpse into MY Ex’s Narcissistic parenting

In an effort to understand more fully what’s going on for my children, I have decided to send with them a recording device. … Keep going...

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Be the best parent

In the midst of the chaos that dealing with a person with a personality disorder brings, it is so easy to be frustrated.… Keep going...

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What goes on at Daddy’s house

My children have been hesitant to say what’s happening at their father’s house, opening up gradually to me and my daughter’s therapist as they grow trust that they can tell without it being conveyed to their father. … Keep going...

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Messages from God

I truly believe that things happen in our lives for a reason.  I don’t think that we have “predefined destiny” – just that God puts things (people, situations, items) in our lives to learn from here and there. … Keep going...

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Therapy objectives for children of abusive parents

Took my daughter last week to her therapist.  We spoke about her conversation with me on her dad hitting her face. … Keep going...

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A Narcissist’s Rage

My children returned last week again complaining of their father’s raging.  My daughter said he was “yelling so loud the neighbors would be able to hear”, and that she asked him to be quieter. … Keep going...

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Severe anxiety as a child of a narcissistic parent

I have been placing my children in God’s hands for every visitation.  I know that these visits are stressful on my children, but I have focused on placing my faith in God that he will answer our prayers to have a better schedule for my children when the time is right.… Keep going...

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Can a narcissist ever be a “better parent”?

I had a conversation the other day with a potential therapist for my son.  It’s a group whose clientele is about 80% families who are divorcing or separating, and has a lot of court experience. … Keep going...

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Narcissists, appearances, and clothing

Narcissists are most concerned about how they appear to the world.   It’s not about “substance”, unfortunately, because they have no concept of that word. … Keep going...

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Way to go, kid!

Last weekend, my daughter didn’t want to go to her dad’s. So, since he couldn’t get the kids until later, or have me bring them to him – I bought my kids a little extra time by having to work around a “previous commitment” before I could drive them there.… Keep going...

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What I do to feel better when coparenting with a narcissist

It’s not easy.  Really, it’s so not easy.  My kids are with their dad this weekend, and this past Wednesday, my daughter woke up wanting to stay under the covers. … Keep going...

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What can we do to help our children

I’ve been thinking about this, and am researching it as well.   At this point in time, with the information I have so far, I think that the most important thing we can do is to show our children what normal, healthy, quality relationships and interactions look like. … Keep going...

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“Mom, can we go back to before I was born and pick out a new dad for me?”

This is what my daughter asked me the other night, in the middle of screaming tears…. “Mom, can we go back to before I was born and pick out a new dad for me?”

Do narcissist parents impact their parents? … Keep going...

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The importance of “the bubble”

This is something I’ve mentioned in earlier posts, and something I use with my kids regularly.   It’s good for adults, and for kids.  … Keep going...

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