Archive for the Parenting Category


Teaching Children about Healthy Relationships

If there’s one thing that is challenging when dealing with a sociopath, narcissist or personality disordered person… it is maintaining an accurate view of what a healthy relationship looks like.  … Keep going...

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Hostile Agressive Parenting & Parental Alienation Syndrome

A few days ago, I received a couple of rather “trolling” blog comments.  At first, I figured I would ignore or delete them. … Keep going...

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The Irony of the Single Parent in a Custody Battle, and the Requirement to be Perfect

As I drove away from the school today, dropping off my kids at the last possible second (think tazmanian devil whirling into the lot and us running into the school),  I am amazed that we made it on time and certain that God’s hand was in it.… Keep going...

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Explaining Narcissistic Personality Disorder to Children

When parenting with someone who has a personality disorder – borderline, NPD/narcissistic, antisocial (sociopath), it feels at times that we should explain the disorder to our children. … Keep going...

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An Update – the School’s Social Worker

God put a blessing in our lives and works in wonderful ways.  I’m not sure yet how this will play out, but I have only to believe that it can help. … Keep going...

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Validation of the Abusiveness of a Narcissistic Parent

Validation:  A powerful, life moving moment when you’ve been in an unhealthy relationship and realize that all those things that you thought “didn’t feel right”..… Keep going...

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An Interesting Upside / Downside to Parenting Well with a Narcissist

This week, as the school counselor interviewed my daughter, she reported to me repeatedly how “upbeat” and “in good spirits” my daughter was even as she speaks about what happens.… Keep going...

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Brené Brown’s Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto

First of all… to Heather: thanks for telling me to read Brene Brown. 🙂  I love her work!

Second… Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work.… Keep going...

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Children Learn what they Live

I have always loved this… especially the day I realized that my ex (spouse at the time) would be unable to provide a good environment for our daughter (this was before our son was born). … Keep going...

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Parenting Plans & Narcissism, Borderline, Personality Disordered or general “High Conflict”

When I was working through the initial stages of divorce and needed to do a parenting plan with my ex, I had a hard time finding what elements should even be included in the plan itself. … Keep going...

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Helping children cope during visitation with a narcissistic parent

Once upon a time, there was a very naive mother.  Naive mommy didn’t know that her soon to be ex has strong (very strong) narcissistic and sociopathic traits, and didn’t quite grasp that he really couldn’t co-parent (or co-anything, for that matter). … Keep going...

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Dear Barack Obama

My children returned after a particularly difficult weekend with their father, and within the first hour, I heard my five year old son scream at his sister: “You f-ing idiot!”  (although he didn’t abbreviate the word like I just did). … Keep going...

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Using “I” Language and other Assertive Communication with Narcissists

The awesome dialog that we had recently about responding to emails made me think maybe it would be helpful to have a post of links to resources which discuss ways to communicate more effectively with a narcissist or other personality disorder.… Keep going...

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The Quest for a Psychological Evaluation

This is a great example of narcissism, if I’ve ever seen one.  I honestly read an email from my ex and laughed aloud. … Keep going...

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Left “alone” by Narcissist Father

What constitutes leaving your children alone?  What is okay, and what isn’t?  My neighbor, who I consider to be a great mom, used to leave her youngest son inside the house as she walked up and around the corner of the street to pick up her older kids from the bus stop. … Keep going...

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Boundaries with Narcissists – give a little room and they want to take a mile

This is a post which we all know well.  I am grappling this morning because I opened my own can of worms with my ex. … Keep going...

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Do Children Need Love?

The other day during my daughter’s therapy appointment, my daughter’s therapist mentioned Harry Harlow and the wire monkey experiments.  I went home and looked it up to understand more about what she was telling me.… Keep going...

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Fear of the Narcissist Parent

My daughter attended her appointment with her therapist last evening.  She apparently did talk quite a bit about how things are going for her. … Keep going...

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A Glimpse into MY Ex’s Narcissistic parenting

In an effort to understand more fully what’s going on for my children, I have decided to send with them a recording device. … Keep going...

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Be the best parent

In the midst of the chaos that dealing with a person with a personality disorder brings, it is so easy to be frustrated.… Keep going...

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