Archive for the Pathological Parenting Category


Helping children cope during visitation with a narcissistic parent

Once upon a time, there was a very naive mother.  Naive mommy didn’t know that her soon to be ex has strong (very strong) narcissistic and sociopathic traits, and didn’t quite grasp that he really couldn’t co-parent (or co-anything, for that matter). … Keep going...

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Children’s Behavior after Visitation with Narcissistic Parent

When my kids started spending more than a few hours with their dad, I noticed that their behavior changed – significantly. … Keep going...

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Dad, I wrote a letter to the president and law makers

My daughter must have met her wit’s end last evening with her father.  She arrived home to say that her dad was being rude to them, and that she told him how she wrote a letter to the president. … Keep going...

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Dear Barack Obama

My children returned after a particularly difficult weekend with their father, and within the first hour, I heard my five year old son scream at his sister: “You f-ing idiot!”  (although he didn’t abbreviate the word like I just did). … Keep going...

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Narcissists Repeat Destructive Relationship Patterns

I find it interesting that we all (personality disordered and “normal” people) have trends or patterns in our lives that repeat themselves. … Keep going...

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Using “I” Language and other Assertive Communication with Narcissists

The awesome dialog that we had recently about responding to emails made me think maybe it would be helpful to have a post of links to resources which discuss ways to communicate more effectively with a narcissist or other personality disorder.… Keep going...

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The Narcissist’s New Girlfriend

A while ago, I wrote a post about having met my ex’s new girlfriend.  She was 28 (he’s 42), sweet as can be and my kid’s loved her. … Keep going...

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Do Narcissists Really Cooperate?

Most of the time, I have posts which I’m working on stacked in the background.  Information that would be helpful to others who are walking down this same path. … Keep going...

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Parental Alienation & Narcissistic Personality Disorder

It only takes a few minutes of googling (a verified verb) to learn about the invalidation of “PAS” and “Parental Alienation Syndrome”.… Keep going...

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Visitation Transitions, Narcissism and Lack of Empathy

Today, my kids transferred to their dad’s for the last of their three separate weeks of summer vacation with him.  My daughter didn’t realize it was today, and sobbed the minute she heard it earlier in the day. … Keep going...

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Coparenting with a Narcissist Requires a (slightly sick) Sense of Humor

There are many aspects of someone who has narcissist traits that can be particularly funny, if you can distance yourself from it all.… Keep going...

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The Impact of Family Violence on Boys – an example

Last month I was dismayed how my ex slapped my daughter’s face because she was upset at the haunted house in Disney.… Keep going...

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Left “alone” by Narcissist Father

What constitutes leaving your children alone?  What is okay, and what isn’t?  My neighbor, who I consider to be a great mom, used to leave her youngest son inside the house as she walked up and around the corner of the street to pick up her older kids from the bus stop. … Keep going...

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Boundaries with Narcissists – give a little room and they want to take a mile

This is a post which we all know well.  I am grappling this morning because I opened my own can of worms with my ex. … Keep going...

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My Narcissistic/Sociopathic Ex’s Current Complaints

My ex met with my daughter’s therapist.  The objective:  For the therapist to get my Ex to agree to having our son evaluated by a mental health professional because of his regressive behaviors (my son, not my ex’s regression 😉

Here’s the key points that he laid out to the therapist. … Keep going...

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Fear of the Narcissist Parent

My daughter attended her appointment with her therapist last evening.  She apparently did talk quite a bit about how things are going for her. … Keep going...

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Narcissists Who Seek Revenge

In my understanding, there are several types and variations of narcissists, as well as a plethoria of comorbidity within personality disorders. … Keep going...

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The narcissists ultimate revenge – taking the children

I was thinking today about my past with my narcissistic ex.  When our first child was born, he moved away (FAR away) for a ‘new job’. … Keep going...

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A Plea from a Narcissist’s Young Daughter

My 8 year old daughter wrote a book this week.  She asked me if I could take it to a publisher and shout her story loud so that she could get help to “improve her and her brother’s lives”.… Keep going...

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The Role of a Parent Coordinator: What to consider when co-parenting with a narcissist

What is a parent coordinator?

In the US, the Association of Family and Conciliatory Courts (AFCC) published a document called the “Guidelines for Parent Coordination“. … Keep going...

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