Archive for the Positive Thinking Category


Letting Go

There is so much context to this phrase, and so many ways to look at it. 

I want to speak about one part of letting go that is a very easy first step to do.… Keep going...

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How far we’ve come… a moment of gratitude

Sometimes I feel like my life is stuck…. stuck in narcissistic purgatory. 

However, there have been some really awesome things that have happened, and I think it’s good to take stock in them. … Keep going...

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Affirmations – to give you strength

A good friend of mine gave me a gift: 6 months of premium “Spotify”.  I’m in heaven.  Spotify is an app which streams music… any music you can imagine, it’s there to be played at the touch of a button. … Keep going...

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Deepak Chopra’s 21 Day Meditation Challenges

I have been doing Deepak’s meditation challenges, and really enjoying them.  They are easy – he starts with an introduction each day on what he wants you to consider. … Keep going...

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Obstacles & Desires

I like this post by David Krueger on Obstacles & Desires we create in our lives.  I think that it is very relevant to everyone – and especially in my situation and other’s like me. … Keep going...

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A Five Year Old’s Perspective on the Presidential Campaign

  Last evening, my five year old son was chanting “Mitt Romney, Mitt Romney!” 

Then he froze.  He asked me, “Mom, who is it that wants to get rid of Elmo?”

I answered “Mitt Romney”

Then he asked “Who is it that is going against Mitt Romney?”

I answered “Barack Obama”

Then he chanted again. … Keep going...

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When the Going Gets Tough

I find that when I am stressed … really stressed and something is bothering me… I get quiet.  My normally extraverted personality turns inwards. … Keep going...

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Finding Peace

Today, I’m feeling a bit stressed as my kids are scheduled to be with their dad for this upcoming “holiday” weekend, and he seems to be doing pretty bad financially. … Keep going...

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Unemployed, Going to Court, Car Broken Down & Feeling Thankful

Yesterday was one of those days…  but yet I still felt happy and thankful.  How?

First, let me explain that I’ve been unemployed for 2+ years now. … Keep going...

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The truth will set you free

On my phone,I have an app which delivers a daily bible quote to the screen.  Today, I read John 8:32 and thought something different than I have before. … Keep going...

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Happy Labor Day

My kids and I just concluded a week’s vacation at the beach with my parents.  My youngest, nerves and all, will begin kindergarten tomorrow. … Keep going...

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The Presence of Light

I heard a phase the other day, which I love and have been trying to keep  on my mind.

“Darkness cannot exist in the presence of light”

There are some religious perspectives on the phrase, but from the perspective of dealing with a narcissistic personality, I am concentrating on being a “presence of light” so that I may outshine the ability for “darkness” (my narcissistic ex) to exist.… Keep going...

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Empaths & Narcissism

I ran across this article  a little while back, and found it quite fascinating. In my view of the world, it’s not all that different than co-dependent personalities attracting narcissists, but it’s nice to view it from a more positive perspective. … Keep going...

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Coparenting with a Narcissist Requires a (slightly sick) Sense of Humor

There are many aspects of someone who has narcissist traits that can be particularly funny, if you can distance yourself from it all.… Keep going...

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Healing from Narcissistic Abuse – Optimism vs. Realism

I had another thought regarding thinking through the lessons I’ve learned from my ex.

The other night, in speaking with my ever-loving, eternally optimistic father, he told me that “maybe <your ex> is finally learning to give and take”. … Keep going...

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Daily Affirmations for Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

I like Louise Hay.  She is all about the power of positive thinking, and using affirmations to change our lives.  Regardless of whether it works or it doesn’t in terms of actually changing my life… it makes me FEEL better when I change my thoughts from those of despair, despise and resentment to ‘happy power thoughts’.… Keep going...

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I was always looking outside myself for strength

and confidence but  it comes from within.

It was there all the time.

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More on Fear

“Fear is the darkroom where negatives are developed.”

– Chinese fortune cooki

“Fear is misdirected energy and must be redirected, or transmuted into Faith.”

– Florence Scovel Shinn, ‘The Game of Life and How to Play It’

For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you

– Isaiah 41:13

The Lord is my light and my salvation–whom shall I fear?

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What’s your mantra?

man·tra Listen to audio/ˈmɑ:ntrə, Brit ˈmæntrə/ noun

1 :a sound, word, or phrase that is repeated by someone who is praying or meditating

2 : a word or phrase that is repeated often or that expresses someone’s basic beliefs

3 : In yoga, one’s mantra is usually given by a Guru.… Keep going...

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Why we are lucky

Why are co-parents and children in divorced houses with narcissistic parents LUCKY?

Because we LEFT.  We have time to ourselves to breathe, to regroup, to step back and look at all the tactics that are used against us as exactly that… tactics. … Keep going...

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