Personality Disorders

The fact that you wound up here on this site would suggest that you’ve given some thought (or gained a diagnosis in another manner) about your ex having a personality disorder.  However, just in case, I want to include here for reference how the DSM-IV categorizes personality disorders.  The DSM-IV is being re-written, and the categories of personality disorders are changing to make what has been learned more clear.  In the meantime, here is the definition, as copied from Wikipedia:

The DSM-IV lists ten personality disorders, grouped into three clusters in Axis II. The DSM also contains a category for behavioral patterns that do not match these ten disorders, but nevertheless exhibit characteristics of a personality disorder. This category is labeled Personality disorder not otherwise specified.

Cluster A (odd or eccentric disorders)

Cluster B (dramatic, emotional or erratic disorders)

Cluster C (anxious or fearful disorders)

Appendix B: Criteria Sets and Axes Provided for Further Study

Appendix B contains the following disorders.[6] They are still widely considered amongst psychiatrists as being valid disorders, for example by Theodore Millon.[7]


The following disorders are still considered to be valid disorders by Millon.[7] They were in DSM-III-R but were deleted from DSM-IV. Both appeared in an appendix entitled “Proposed diagnostic categories needing further study”,[8] and so did not have any concrete diagnostic criteria.




4 Responses to “Personality Disorders”

  1. Emma says:

    Hello, I had heard they were removing it from DSM-V but have seen it described on the website as how they’re proposing to diagnose- I.e. I think it may stay???

  2. Present says:

    Thanks for your reply! Yes, I can’t believe there is still a GAL, but where I live the kids really just don’t have much of a “say.” The reason we are back in court right now is because my ex wants me held in contempt for “not bringing the kids” to his house a few times this past summer and fall. The kids are realizing what kind of person their dad is, and obviously they’re too big for me to force in the car when they don’t want to go to his house. It’s really stressful, and my ex is relentless. You’re right, it’s probably his way of staying connected to me- in fact, he recently projected that quite blatantly by saying that I am the one who is causing the problems, probably as a way to stay connected to him!! So I’m hoping the possibility you mentioned comes true, and that the co-parenting counselor can see through him. We’ll see! The hardest part right now is helping my kids with the tools they need to deal with this man. And things are getting so bad at their dad’s house that I might file a motion to change placement soon. At least my kids are in counseling themselves! As am I! =) I love the positivity of your blog- thanks again.

  3. Present says:

    Hey Natalia, I just came across your blog and am surprised I hadn’t found it sooner, so long and often have I scoured the internet for sites like this to keep me going!! =) Thank you so much for what you are doing. I just wanted to comment that I thought I’d heard NPD was now removed from the DSM, unfortunately. Perhaps because it’s not a chemical or biological disorder, but learned/chosen? I’m not sure. At any rate, I have been divorced from a narcissist for about 4 years now, with two wonderful kids ages 13 and 15, and am STILL dealing with the constant issues of having to try to parent with this man. Today I learned that the GAL’s recent report on our case includes: 1. my having to attend co-parenting counseling with my ex, 2. the kids returning (thank God) to their counselor, 3. having to use an online communication system so I don’t go off and sign the kids up for things that they want to do (heaven forbid) without “consulting” with my ex, and 4. my son possibly not being able to play on the sports team he has been a part of for 2 years (because it’s soooo far away.) I’m thinking of getting my counselor to protest my attending the co-parenting sessions because I’m afraid to be in a room with him, but not so sure that will come across very well… I just don’t think it’s going to do any good at all! I’m rambling- thanks again for your blog, and I look forward to reading more!

    • Hi there! I’m stunned that you still have a GAL involved with your children at the ages where they can very clearly speak up. I’m also amazed that he’s still involved – it is my understanding that the ages of your children are primary ages for the ex to disappear because that’s when the kids will start to push back and exercise their independence. I wonder if it’s because he still wants the link with you, and if that has anything to do with the GAL recommending co-parenting counseling. For the co-parenting – unless if you have prior history of abusive actions, it may be hard to say that you don’t want to attend. There could be positives out of it – it could be that the coparent counselor recognizes the issues and helps to guide the conversation favorably?

      Re: NPD – you are right in that they are removing it from the DSM. I’ll do a longer post with the explanation, but the short of it is that they feel that it’s so co-mingled into many personality disorders and doesn’t actually stand out on it’s own right. In my humble opinion, there’s pros/cons to that change.

      Thank you for your comments! I wish you the best!!

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